Christmas doesn’t need to be drowned in mulled wine and sweet sherry to be fun. But for those on a sober journey, it pays to think ahead.
Let’s face it, the festive season is awash with booze and for those who are sober, navigating Christmas can be challenging and sometimes daunting. At Emerging Futures, we’re experts in recovery. We know what it takes to empower people with the skills they need to give the best shot at success.
So, when it comes to surviving a festive season surrounded by alcohol, we decided to sit down with Suzanne Long, Hertfordshire Detox Service Manager to get her advice on staying sober and sane when surrounded by booze-induced merriment.
Suzanne was clear. With a bit of forward-thinking, it’s entirely possible to enjoy the season just as much – if not more – than those who indulge.
Here are her top tips for a clear-headed merry Christmas.
PREPARE FOR SOCIAL GATHERINGS.
“The festive period is packed with events where alcohol flows freely, so if you’re attending a gathering, have a strategy in place. This could mean leaving early when the atmosphere shifts to heavy drinking or choosing to skip certain events altogether.”
This is sound advice. Having a polite yet firm response ready when someone offers you a drink can make those tricky conversations much smoother, too. “I’m happy with what I have, thanks” can deflect pressure without creating awkwardness. If needed, a small white lie can also work wonders – “I’m on antibiotics right now” is a reliable excuse.
Whilst skipping some events might feel like missing out, Suzanne suggested considering alternatives, too, like joining a non-drinking friend for a cosy movie night. Or making new traditions – like volunteering at a local night shelter or preparing hot festive food for those in need.
SHARE YOUR COMMITMENT TO SOBRIETY.
“One of the best ways to solidify your decision to stay sober is to tell someone you trust.”
Whether you’ll be spending time with family, friends or colleagues, sharing your plan to stay alcohol-free creates accountability and builds a support network.
It’s simple, and a great way to shore yourself up for success. Just by knowing that someone is aware of your choice, it can feel reassuring. They can serve as a source of encouragement or even an ally in social settings where alcohol might be prominent.
HAVE YOUR SUPPORT NETWORK READY.
Sobriety, like Christmas, is about connections. Suzanne said:
“Make a list of friends, family members or mentors who understand your journey and can provide guidance when you need it. These are your go-to people when you feel challenged or overwhelmed during the festive season.”
She explained that sometimes, a quick call or WhatsApp message to a supportive pal can be the difference between feeling isolated and understood. If you have a sponsor or a counsellor, keep them in mind as well. The knowledge that someone has your back – even from afar – can be a great comfort.
PLAN YOUR DRINKS IN ADVANCE.
“Stock up on sparkling water, kombucha, herbal teas, and soft drinks.”
Christmas gatherings often focus heavily on booze, from mulled wine to champagne toasts. Having your favourite alcohol-free alternatives readily available ensures you’ll never feel out of place or unprepared.
If you’re staying with friends or family, let them know in advance about your preferences. Most hosts will gladly accommodate your needs.
ENJOY THE GIFT OF FRESH MORNINGS.
“Hangover? Not for you! Enjoy feeling fresh and use the extra time for yourself.”
Suzanne mentioned that one of the most underrated joys of being sober at Christmas for her is waking up refreshed and clear-headed. While others might be nursing hangovers, you’ll be energised and ready to seize the day.
Lace up your trainers and take advantage of your fresh start. Whether it’s a brisk walk in the frosty morning air, a home yoga session or simply dancing to your favourite holiday tunes, movement will lift your spirits.
CARVE OUT TIME FOR YOURSELF.
“Christmas and New Year, while joyous, can be overwhelming. Taking breaks to recharge is crucial for maintaining your wellbeing and sobriety.”
One of Suzanne’s biggest tips was to plan quiet moments to retreat, whether it’s to meditate, read or jot down your thoughts. If you’re staying with others, communicate your need for personal time. After all, it’s completely okay to prioritise your mental health. These moments of solitude will help you stay grounded, allowing you to savour the season.
THE MAGIC OF A SOBER CHRISTMAS.
Choosing sobriety during Christmas is a powerful way to honour yourself and the life you’re building. Without the haze of alcohol, you’ll experience the season’s joys with heightened clarity and authenticity. You’ll laugh deeper, connect more sincerely and wake up each day ready to embrace whatever comes your way.
Remember, you’re not alone. Here’s to a merry and memorable sober Christmas!
***
If you or someone you know is struggling with addiction, don’t wait. Recovery is possible and you are not alone. Reach out to Emerging Futures for support and begin your journey towards a better future. info@emergingfutures.org.uk. Tel: 03330 124 714.
